Kate’s Corner: Asking For Help

I couldn’t migrate my blog into Affiliate Systems, so reached out for help. ((Please, please do the same if you’re having trouble)).

Turns out my blog was too big to migrate. But that can be fixed and will be fixed.

Asking for help is something too many refuse to do. There is no question too stupid to ask.

Asking for help is a strength, not a weakness, especially here with mentors like Dean Holland, where help is always available.

Asking for help can be viewed as a spiritual practice because it suggests that the act of seeking assistance is not just a practical matter, but can also be deeply intertwined with one’s spiritual life or journey. This concept can be understood from several perspectives:

1. Humility and Vulnerability: In many spiritual traditions, humility is a valued trait. Asking for help requires acknowledging one’s limitations and vulnerabilities, which can be a humbling experience. This humility is often seen as a spiritual virtue, fostering a sense of community and interconnectedness.

2. Trust and Faith: Asking for help can also be an expression of trust or faith, whether in other people or in a higher power. It involves the belief that one will receive support, and that there is value in connecting with others or with the divine for assistance.

3. Growth and Learning: Spirituality often involves personal growth and development. Asking for help can be a way to learn, evolve, and gain new insights, which are essential components of many spiritual journeys.

4. Compassion and Service: In some spiritual viewpoints, the act of asking for help provides an opportunity for others to engage in acts of kindness or service, which are key aspects of spiritual practice. It creates a dynamic of giving and receiving that can be spiritually enriching for both parties.

5. Breaking Down Ego: Asking for help can be a practice in diminishing the ego. In spiritual contexts, the ego is often seen as a barrier to deeper understanding and connection. Admitting the need for help can be a way to break down ego-driven barriers.

6. Interconnectedness: This concept also relates to the idea of interconnectedness that many spiritual traditions emphasize. It recognizes that individuals are part of a larger whole and that seeking and offering help strengthens these connections.

Viewing the act of asking for help as a spiritual practice involves recognizing its role in promoting humility, trust, personal growth, compassion, ego reduction, and interconnectedness. These elements are often integral to various spiritual paths and practices.

Go ahead- ask for help! Both of you will be rewarded.


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24 thoughts on “Kate’s Corner: Asking For Help”

  1. I think that asking for help and offering help are equally good. I love to help people and I am grateful to people who help me. I really liked the points that you made about the value of requesting help. Great blog post.

  2. I can remember asking for help only once. It was quite memorable. My good friend said, I’m coming, Lily. As soon as I get my bra on. I offer help too many times even when not asked. It can be a handicap. Now I try to be still and quiet and just listen till asked.

  3. Great advice asking and giving help both so valuable. I spent a lot of my life leaning different skills and have always enjoyed helping others trying to learn. It has been learning experience for me, to ask for help. Like to figure things out my self so wait to ask but Very rewarding when I ask and can get help.

  4. We have lived and worked in small country towns where everyone asks for and receives help. There have been forest fires, storms, floods, car problems. Where I came from, families were too proud to ask for help beyond the family. Even then no one wanted the other family members to know they had problems that caused them trouble. There was cultural blame which was easily expressed and hurtful. With our infrastructure breaking down and the government in such array, we need each other and must reach out for help. Also, pride must be dropped and human frailties faced honestly. Community is the ultimate strength. We must all do our inner work with empathy and compassion. Namaste

  5. Wow, I had not thought about how much more there is behind asking for help than just asking for help!

    I guess that generally when I am asking for help, it is because of something that is taking my attention right then, and so I don’t get time to think about what else is going on, both in me as a requester and in others as the help giver.

    Thos bçog has certainly made me stop and think, thanks.

  6. Kate, if we could only learn to ask for help SOONER than LATER… I was raised to be independent. I have always been willing to help others even when they didn’t ask but I saw the struggle. However, I didn’t want to “be a bother” to anyone, so it turn, I figured out a lot of things on my own. Through studing and “trial and error” (mostly error) I has been able to accomplish many things. It took me years to learn that asking for help isn’t a bad thing. Like you mentioned, it can also be a very spiritual event. Being Humble and asking for help doesn’t mean you are weak… It means you are learning and moving forward!!!

  7. Amazing Kate!
    The way you’ve taken the simple ak of asking for help and you added so much depth and value to it. With understanding it’s not just about one getting and answer and taking the next step, there is so much more value intertwined in getting or offering help, making one want to ask more freely. Look forward to your next posts!

  8. Hi Kate, thank you for sharing such an interesting perspective on business… and relating it to a spiritual practice. I love your take… looking forward to following future posts!

  9. So many people see asking for help as a weakness when it is in fact a strength.
    All animals, including humans learn from others – this is a form of help and the better we learn the more effective we become in passing on the information to others.
    Often questions asked not only clarify the mind of the person asking but also the mind of the “expert” who gives the answer.
    God bless.

  10. Kate, really great advice, especially around the spiritual side. It’s absolutely true that people find it hard to ask for help and unfortunately men especially. We have to remember that we haven’t got time to make all the mistakes so we have to learn from others. Whatever you need somebody somewhere would’ve done it, so if you don’t ask you never find out. Great advice thanks until next time, Atif.

  11. Kate,
    Your perspective on asking for help as a strength rather than a weakness is truly refreshing! It’s a powerful realization that it takes strength to seek assistance. I appreciate your insight into the spirituality aspect as well. Inspired by your words, I’m ready to embrace asking for help when I need it, rather than trying to figure everything out on my own. Thanks for the wisdom!

    1. Whenever I ask for help, I visualize also empowering the person I’ve asked. Asking for money is always a sensitive topic, but those difficulties lie in negative and limiting ideas about money. For instance, the person asking for money needs to strengthen their own money belief systems, by enrolling in classes that deal with that. John Assaraf and Joe Dispenza come to mind.

  12. Hi Kate, wonderful reminder and thought provoking share of all the benefits the simple act of asking for help does. Love it! I’m going to print this out and post it on my wall so I can be reminded of all these benefits every time I hesitate to ask. Thank you for sharing!

  13. Kate,

    Thanks for the reminder that we need to be humble enough to ask for help when we need it. I think everyone struggles with this at times. I use to struggle with it a lot. I was self dependent and felt like I didn’t need anyone’s help.

    But then I ended up in bed for almost 7 years and had no chose but to ask for help continuously. This was defiantly a humbling time.

    I now ask for help when I need it but I recognize that it isn’t always easy to reach out and ask.
    Again thanks for the reminder.

    1. You learned the lesson the hard way, CJ. I admire your perseverance. We keep hearing Dean Holland tell us to ask for help, which gave me the idea to write this post! Asking for help is at the center of one of the most successful spiritual program of all time-Alcoholics Anonymous. Asking for help is one of the most important things anyone can do! Thanks for stopping by!!

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